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Wise
Worry Worry
is part of the human condition. We
worry by evolutionary design. Worry
results from the combination of fear and our ability to create abstract thought.
It results when we combine "What if…?"
and fear. Fear
is a natural mechanism designed to protect us.
Worry also can be a protective mechanism that triggers planning and
problem solving--preventive self care. In excess,
though, it can be non-productive and even get in the way of effective coping. You can
make worry work for you by defining the situation that is causing you worry. You might
begin with "I fear that….." or I'm worried that…." ,
completing the sentence with exact and vivid detail. Next rate
from 1 to 100 the level of distress this situation causes you. Also rate the
probability of this feared outcome actually occurring. You may conclude through
this examination that the worry is fairly insignificant in the larger scheme of
things. You may also realize that
some worries are worthy of further action, planning, and problem solving. When a
worry is worthy of further attention, identify what outcomes you particularly
fear and, most importantly, what negative belief or judgment you expect to have
about yourself if this occurs. Step
back and examine if that feared negative judgment or feeling is justified or
reasonable. A more objective look
at your fear and unrealistic expectations of yourself, will deflate the worry.
Chronic worriers often discover that even the worst outcome, although
painful, can be managed. Next
brainstorm what you can do to create a more positive outcome. Don't forget to also identify the factors that are not in
your control. Develop a reasonable preventive plan that minimizes the feared
negative outcome while increasing the likelihood of a positive outcome. You have
now made your worry work for you. Your final
step is to let go of those things that are outside your control.
"I cannot control the final outcome" is useful self- talk to
help keep our worry wise. For more information contact the EAP at 433-1211. |